It’s how we say thinkg as much as what we say!
When you come home and your wife or girlfriend says “Honey, where have you been” and it is a friendly voice tone, she likely just wants to make a little conversation or truly wants to know how your day was….. When she says….. “Where have you been?” in the tone of voice demanding, you tell here where you were and what you were doing…. It is not friendly.
Basic same words…. Completely different meanings in the questions, again, basically the same words…..